Tuesday, July 11, 2006
Why family planning is not a community endeavor
Then we added another. You know, that sweet little thing has a brother now. Isn't that precious, but boy ... what is the age difference between them? Wow. You sure had them close together (when hearing the answer of 23 months). Imagine the looks I received when I had a toddler in tow, and was extremely pregnant.
Then we added that third one. Now we have gone from "aren't they a precious family?" to "what in the hell did you have three kids for?" stares in restaurants.
We have gone from "look at those two ... they could be TWINS! (and really, the Door Man and Queen Bee have been mistaken for twins on more than one occasion)" to "you know, they have a cure for those kids ... it's called birth control" comments.
We have gone from "I bet they play wonderfully together, and how smart you were to have them so close together" to "what in the hell were you thinking, having THREE kids so close together" statements (all unsolicited, of course).
And then there is this morning. The chilluns and I got into the family roadster and headed off to that thar learnin' place with all them thar books ... the libairy. Man... we was in for some GOOD times....
There was a man sitting in the lobby and he looked at me with my three in tow and said "WOW! you have your hands full! (I ABHOR LOATHE HATE DESPISE that comment)." It is like people feel that they can make a comment about your family size once you have that extra kid above two. Normally when I get that comment, I just smile and say "yep... we were tired of man to man defense so hubby and I wanted to move to zone. Works much better."
I just smiled in return. Seeing my smile as an invitation to make yet another comment, he said "wow... are all them yours?"
Smiling more I responded "Oh these are just the three most well-behaved ones. I left the other five in the van because they weren't listening to me."
I'm a mom of three peeps ... Queen Bee, The Door Man, and the Chandelier Monkey, and wife to Ace, the Helpful Hardware Man. I created this space to get away from the people known as my inlaws, and because life with three kids and a hubby is all Unexplored Territory.
Dramamine and the DVD